It is true that many nice men with best intention never make it up for a girl-friend even for 30 minutes, and on the other side, women feel comfortable with abusive men, liars, violent guys just out of jail...
I think, many women are too much materialistic orientated and are judging men only on the surface without asking much.
As a girl told me, the most important for her is, that the guy is not 'boring'...what means not boring? Good in bed and sport-car, she told me.
If he is earning a salary as a regular worker of if he has money out of fraud or robbery seems not to be important. Sometimes I even got the impression, a violent criminal background is impressive for females - a true man, who knows how to treat and protect a lady. Alcohol also is important...a man, not into alcohol, is considered as weak...not a man.
A big car is a MUST, but if it is paid, is not important. Some expensive gifts are a MUST, but how he can pay back the card-loan, who cares?
Of course a big home, if it belongs to him or to the parents or somebody else, or to the bank because of many unpaid invoices... never mind.
I have little understandings for women who find themselves in an abusive relationship.
Why can women not be a little bit more patient, less materialistic and demanding and a bit kind and tolerant with a man, who has good intention, but does not really know how to approach women?
Might be these men are not good entertainers but at least, they have their life under their control...and there are so many good men out, who never find a nice girl who is willing to listen to them even only for a few minutes.
I think its because these type of guys KNOW how to manipulate women. The way these jerks manipulate women by using their emotions against them. Jerks are not honest in their feelings towards the woman, but real guys are.
Most women think with their brains but make many of their decisions based on emotions, and these dudes [jerks] know that. If she feels the emotion when he lies to her, she will want to believe him because women are right behind their feelings. Where ever their feelings go, they are right behind them.
If her feelings take a walk over a cliff, the she is likely to follow.
I know this girl that liked a jerk. He would hit her, and he would CRY and tell her that he will never do it again. Well it finally took like 4 times of leaving and getting back together that she finally left his butt. She believed him because crying is a true emotion for women.
I say it's not the woman's fault but their nature is at fault. Evolution, God, or whatever you want to attribute, and their brain structure make them [women] vulnerable to abuse but mostly being used by their own emotions being used against them.
It's not that they are stupid either, because I talk to her and she does NOTE that she is in fact BEING STUPID. BUT, because she has feelings for this guy she follows them and trusts that he will change.. The jerk [the poser] tells the chick he cares, and naturally she is HIGHLY conducive to emotion. I told her what I thought, and she acknowledged my concerns about her and him, but she did it anyway more than once.
I have met FEW women who can stray from their emotions. The girl I am talking about is very smart, street smart and book wise. But she fell for the same trick like 3 times.
Women just follow their emotions too much. 90% of the time they know what they are doing to themselves, so they are not stupid. But at the same time, most women don't listen to the voice in their head.
Like a moth drawn to a flame, a woman is drawn to abuse and use by a jerk jerking her emotions.
So to sum it up, she does know that he is using her but her emotions make the truth dull to her, she accepts it and learns.
Then, nice guys come along and women don't trust them; keep their guard up so long against the genuine guy that women run them away - even scare them away or embarrassed for being male.
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