Why do some black men dislike black women dating white men, but are happy to date white women themselves?

Im a 21yro white male from the UK, and tend to only date black or mixed race women.

WM dating BW is the last thing on my mind i cant speak for every black man though...

theres so many women out there why limit ourselves to one race.

I think it also works with a lot of white men not liking white women dating black men.

Don't know why any of them have a problem really, it's all people, all the same underneath, all with the same hopes, dreams and fears as we go through life.

One day we'll all be a nice coffee colour anyway and it won't matter!

Everyone has an opinion on the mixed race topic, I think black men are the only ones confident enough legally to address it. If a white man complained about a black man, and a white woman, then he would be considered a racist. If a black man does it, we smile and wave.

Because when they date white women it's all fine and dandy, but when it's the other way around...black women are supposedly betraying their race.

I guess they think we have to stick by them through thick and thin...but black women DO have a mind of their own.

Because they are hypocrites.

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Why do nonblack women dating black men hate black women?

I noticed the majority of nonblack girls who say they date black men hate black women. I personally cannot understand. I like asian women but I don't hate asian men. How can someone think that way?

I've had a experience similar you can see in one of the questions I asked I lost three female friends who are like this.

I don't think they are the majority, but I do think that group of women is a significant number and that they are more secure in their relationships when their partners also hate black women.

It's pretty sad and scary all the same.

I think the women that you speak of are just jealous. No offense, we know that most people are attracted to mainly their race. So it's kind of "natural" for a black man to be attracted to black women. The nonblack girls feel that black women are their competition and feel threatened. They know that they could never be of that race (not that it matters, but it might to some people) so that's why they're jealous.

Because the non-black women who date black men and have a problem with or disliking of black women, do so because they are being told bad things (generalizations) about black women by the black men they date. The women who date self-hating or ignorant black men will be told all types of bullshit stories from black men, since black men MUST have a reason/excuse to date outside of his race besides any reason of actually just liking the non-black woman. So they use their negative stereotypes of black women and past bad relationships as a free ticket (an excuse) to not date black women. Black men MUST have a reason to date non-black women besides just being attractive to the woman. Nobody puts black women down...like black men. So these non-black females dating black men take a disliking in black women based on what they have been told about black women from black men.

But the grass is never greener on the other side. And sooner or later their relationships have problems (like all relationships) and they realize that black men (not all) ain't ****. And some non-black women in these relationships realize that he more than likely caused some of the problems in his relationships with black women. When they complaints are the same about black men as black women.

Not all non-black females who date black men are like that. But the ones who are is pretty pathetic. To take an opinion of someone Else and not get their own.

They can have all the Black men, for all I care. And I'm Black. Black men aren't just only in America. You got Blacks in Europe, Blacks in Africa, Blacks in Canada, Blacks in Australia, and foreign Blacks IN America...not just African-American and etc. There is a whole wide world of Black men to sought after. Not just in America.

MOST OF THE BLK MEN DATING NON BLK WOMAN HAVE A NEGATIVE VIEW ON THEY THAT CARRY'S OVER TO THE DATER..

PLUS MOST WOMEN ARE THREADED BY BLK WOMAN'S POWER

ANSWER MY QUESTION PLEASE

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AjuWeEnfnS6RvraaRyN4os3sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080904141905AAlP82C

Maybe because some black women give them attitude, especially when seeing them with a black guy. Or it could be because like someone said, they view black women as a threat because black men tend to find black women more physically attractive then white women.

I guess they see the black women as their competition because they are the so-called counterparts of black men. Hell if I know.

Some of them are insecure. They are afraid that they might lose their black men to black women.

I think that they're just haters. But hey, do you blame them? Look at us black women. If I weren't black I would hate too.

not every girl who dates a black man hates black girls...

The truth is that non-black women are at war with the black women over who gets to date the black man.

On a more serious note, most black women have real nasty attitudes, so it's not just the non-black women who don't like black women. Most black men don't even like dating black women, fact.

Did you know that out of all the races in the world, Black women and Asian men are the most single people on the planet, fact. Doesn't take a whole lot of smarts to know why.

Because they have an attitude. Only blonds date black men, most I know are abusive.

help me plz, Im bad at math.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Anpu7DCLxf9ZoOoAROJjZDDsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080904165957AAeKKPA

That's weird I have a lot of friends' that aren't black ,dating black men and usually I hear it's the other way around. But,I don't know I'm not judging just hearsay.

Because a lot of them are rude and have a crazy attitude problem. Of course, not ALL of them are like that.

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What do you think about short women dating short men?

I am 5'1 and I've recently met someone who is incredible. We bond on almost every level and I'm incredibly attracted to him but he is short. He's my height! Maybe an inch taller! But as a woman who is used to dating big men I'm realizing that this may present a problem or it will at least be a challenge to say the least. Am I over exaggerating? What do you think?

Totally over exaggerating!

I am the same height as you and I dated someone who was 6"2 for 2 years, my boyfriend now is probably only an inch taller than me and we have been togehter for 9 months. No problems at all, the only issue I ahve is that I cant wear really high heels, but Im over that, just an excuse to shop for more shoes and its better for my back:) Its wonderful, not only can I reach him to kiss him, it doesn't hurt my neck to have my head tilted back so far, and we fit perfectly for cuddling.

Why would you deny incredible chemistry because he is barely taller than you? Go for it you will see it doesnt matter!

Oh not sure if you care about this, but I find the shorter the man, the more...well endowed he is.

The only real issue is that if you have children the possibility is that they will be short too. Not necessarily though. That only makes a difference, especially for the males, in that it has been proven statistically that tall men are more successful in business affairs than short men. If you are in love and otherwise well suited I wouldn't let height get in the way.

how will it be challenging? a short man can do pretty much everything a tall man could do... i cant think of what he wouldn't be able to do!! i usually date shorter guys, not for any reason it's just kind of happened like that! but im now dating a taller guy and its just the same, and its kind of annoying to always have to go on my toes to kiss him! :0)

it seems you have a great base for the relationship already if ur that close so go for it!

well, that depends on your POV. if you don't like the idea of dating someone in your height limit then that's your choice. but sounds like you and him are getting along juts fine. its a step. so your POV on dating short men might change.

You should really ask yourself if you want to date him or not. I personally don't think there's a problem with short women dating short men.

Please answer my question on "Debate: Survival the fittest! Looks will determine a person's authority?"

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What do you think of women dating married men?

I mean, it's just as wrong as a married man dating another women right? Are they both committing a sin here...?

If the lady did not know he was married, I wouldn't think anything less of her but it is the man that I would think less of. He should be man enough to be honest from the get go. Man enough to know not to cross that line and to handle his problem if any at home.

I think that they are both really, really messed up people that have no values, no morals, no ethics and are just plain selfish. They don't care for anyone other than themselves. They will both destroy other people, including innocent children, in their pursuit of pleasure and validation.

People do not have affairs for the sex - they have affairs because they are severely lacking as individuals.

They are the ones that cause 90% of all divorce and get married over and over and over trying to find that "perfect one" when it's not about the other person at all! .

It's all about their own defective character trying to find happiness by manipulating another to their whim and fancy.

They deserve each other!

Not necessarily. It depends totally on the situation of the married person. 1st Corinthians chapter 7 tells spouses that they MUST care for one another's needs sexually or they risk sexual affairs outside the marriage. I believe Paul meant that if a wife fails to keep her husband sexually satisfied (or vice versa) and he has an affair, it is not the other woman who is to blame, but the wife.

I don't.

It is wrong both ways any time one of the protagonists is married.

He is not loving his wife if he is dating outside of marriage, she is not respecting her husband if she is dating outside of marriage.

If they copulate, it's either fornication or adultery - both of which are sins.

Hi,

I would have to say that they are both equally as wrong no matter how you look at it. I don't see how you can truly trust a man in that type of relationship. I mean, if he would date you when he is married what would make you think that he would be faithful to only you?

They are both in the wrong. On moral grounds it is adultery.

Besides the moral issues, nothing good can come from it. It destroys families and causes much grief. If the marriage is not what you want, end it and then have your fun. Their thoughtlessness will come back to bite them in the end.

Dating a married man is a complete waste of time! Heartache and pain is inevitable in those relationships. I will never understand why people think relationships like that can work. Building a relationship on an affair.....that's a great foundation!

I think anyone that is married should only date the person they are married to and that's it, they made a commitment when they got married and they need to stay faithful to the person they are married to.

The woman didn't make the same commitment the husband did, but that's like trying to argue infinity is less than infinity times 2 ... not really convincing in the end.

They're both adulterers, and yes, they're both "sinning".

Yes. Both are committing a sin but it would be bad if she did not know he was married. That would really prove how weak their

relationship was but in da end both are sinning.

Hope this helps. Remember djcrunch everyone.

I don't believe in sin, but I do think it is wrong for a man to date an attached woman and a woman to date an attached man. ALWAYS!

Yes, they are both committing a sin. Infidelity and adultery is wrong. Blame lies on both people, no one can claim to not be at blame in these situations.

yes it's wrong. if a woman dates a married man she is a homewrecker and a scumbag

one tale happened that both women meet, then , both left their boyfriend/husband. Another urban legend is that these women date and become friends...

The married man is much, much more in the wrong. He's the one with the commitment. But the other woman is no saint either.

I can't judge others but I am sure there are underlining factors involved to get to that point.

They are committing adultery, yes they are both at fault.

Yes if she knows that he is married then she is just as wrong.

It all depends on how is that relationship...they are both guilty...but if one of them is in love or get involved with lies...there is guilt from the other one

No big deal....happens all the time. The broads should learn to accept it.

It kills me that women don't have the common courtesy to leave someone elses marriage ALONE. its like they don't get it.

It is wrong according to what I believe morally. I have no respect for cheaters.

Um..obviously!

Cheaters are cheaters in my book...no matter the gender.

yes period

It is WRONG

Yes.

why do you feel it is ok to go beyond acceptable boundaries?

Um...YES...whut?

yeah, I have to say its bad to do that.

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How is this a valid argument against black women dating white men?

When black women talk about their frustration with how black men treat them and may choose to date white men...

I have heard the argument that black women will face racism from white men's family if they choose to date them.

This still does not negate the fact that black men are treating black women poorly and it's not defending against how white men will treat them, but rather how society will view bw/wm relationship.

How is this a valid defense?

It isn't a valid argument at all. crappy men come in all shades..so do racist families. u dont have to deal with one just to get the opposite of the other (if that's understandable lol). and ur last bit of info lost me too..seems redundant (or some other word that describes unnecessary info).

Your questions kind of confusing BUT and i know some people are going to get angry at this but yes i feel that majority of black men do treat black women like s***. It doesn't necessarily mean that's the reason they want to date outside of their race though it could be they were attracted to them all along but wanted to give the black men a chance first.

My friend is about to marry a white guy next month....his mother LOVES her and his father has her call him dad. And a blogger I like to read about has a asian husband and she is black and his parents are annoying them about how they want grandkids soon!!! But I careless about anyones feelings. Just the person am dating.

What? What you are asking is so unclear. I see about three separate statements to evaluate and there may be more. Please add details so we don't have to try to figure out what you want commented on in this debate.

Edit: See what you've done by asking this? You've let the scott out again! *damn!*

No it isn't a valid defense. People will be racist no matter what you do, you just have to show them you don't care about their opinion and you will date who you want to date

one of my friends is married to a white guy. if the guy is laid back is family probably is too. a woman, any woman , has those instincts if a relationship will work out.

I don't get it. If someone likes or loves a person, sometimes it doesn't matter how they family think. The last part has me really confused.

Why can't we just love who we want to love without race getting in the way?

It shouldn't matter. That's how I see it.

why do you care mann!

Not all Black guys are like that. But, many Black guys have been beat by their mommas their whole life. Many of their aunts have molested them like in that movie about the little Black boy that joined the Navy and found out who his parents were. Denzel Wahington was in it. I can't remember the name. It was a great movie though.

Good job for those black women.

Majority of black men are no good and tap booty on Fridays and on Mondays they go and drink liquor out of a 40 oz in a paper bag.

Maybe black women receive criticism because white men can do better than loud gang bangers who smoke crack every day

thats black womens problem! black people should stick with their own race...I think it's just their excuse so they can be with a white person and fit into our culture!

Thats unusual since most of us wouldnt date Black girls

I wouldnt and I dont know anybody who would date a Black girl so those cases are very rare.

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Why do some black men dislike black women dating white men, but are happy to date white women themselves?

Im a 21yro white male from the UK, and tend to only date black or mixed race women.

WM dating BW is the last thing on my mind i cant speak for every black man though...

theres so many women out there why limit ourselves to one race.

I think it also works with a lot of white men not liking white women dating black men.

Don't know why any of them have a problem really, it's all people, all the same underneath, all with the same hopes, dreams and fears as we go through life.

One day we'll all be a nice coffee colour anyway and it won't matter!

Everyone has an opinion on the mixed race topic, I think black men are the only ones confident enough legally to address it. If a white man complained about a black man, and a white woman, then he would be considered a racist. If a black man does it, we smile and wave.

Because when they date white women it's all fine and dandy, but when it's the other way around...black women are supposedly betraying their race.

I guess they think we have to stick by them through thick and thin...but black women DO have a mind of their own.

Because they are hypocrites.

hi you can try this one:

dating-tips4you.blogspot.com

black women= YUCK!

Why do nonblack women dating black men hate black women?

I noticed the majority of nonblack girls who say they date black men hate black women. I personally cannot understand. I like asian women but I don't hate asian men. How can someone think that way?

I've had a experience similar you can see in one of the questions I asked I lost three female friends who are like this.

I don't think they are the majority, but I do think that group of women is a significant number and that they are more secure in their relationships when their partners also hate black women.

It's pretty sad and scary all the same.

I think the women that you speak of are just jealous. No offense, we know that most people are attracted to mainly their race. So it's kind of "natural" for a black man to be attracted to black women. The nonblack girls feel that black women are their competition and feel threatened. They know that they could never be of that race (not that it matters, but it might to some people) so that's why they're jealous.

Because the non-black women who date black men and have a problem with or disliking of black women, do so because they are being told bad things (generalizations) about black women by the black men they date. The women who date self-hating or ignorant black men will be told all types of bullshit stories from black men, since black men MUST have a reason/excuse to date outside of his race besides any reason of actually just liking the non-black woman. So they use their negative stereotypes of black women and past bad relationships as a free ticket (an excuse) to not date black women. Black men MUST have a reason to date non-black women besides just being attractive to the woman. Nobody puts black women down...like black men. So these non-black females dating black men take a disliking in black women based on what they have been told about black women from black men.

But the grass is never greener on the other side. And sooner or later their relationships have problems (like all relationships) and they realize that black men (not all) ain't ****. And some non-black women in these relationships realize that he more than likely caused some of the problems in his relationships with black women. When they complaints are the same about black men as black women.

Not all non-black females who date black men are like that. But the ones who are is pretty pathetic. To take an opinion of someone Else and not get their own.

They can have all the Black men, for all I care. And I'm Black. Black men aren't just only in America. You got Blacks in Europe, Blacks in Africa, Blacks in Canada, Blacks in Australia, and foreign Blacks IN America...not just African-American and etc. There is a whole wide world of Black men to sought after. Not just in America.

MOST OF THE BLK MEN DATING NON BLK WOMAN HAVE A NEGATIVE VIEW ON THEY THAT CARRY'S OVER TO THE DATER..

PLUS MOST WOMEN ARE THREADED BY BLK WOMAN'S POWER

ANSWER MY QUESTION PLEASE

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AjuWeEnfnS6RvraaRyN4os3sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080904141905AAlP82C

Maybe because some black women give them attitude, especially when seeing them with a black guy. Or it could be because like someone said, they view black women as a threat because black men tend to find black women more physically attractive then white women.

That's weird I have a lot of friends' that aren't black ,dating black men and usually I hear it's the other way around. But,I don't know I'm not judging just hearsay.

I guess they see the black women as their competition because they are the so-called counterparts of black men. Hell if I know.

Some of them are insecure. They are afraid that they might lose their black men to black women.

I think that they're just haters. But hey, do you blame them? Look at us black women. If I weren't black I would hate too.

not every girl who dates a black man hates black girls...

The truth is that non-black women are at war with the black women over who gets to date the black man.

On a more serious note, most black women have real nasty attitudes, so it's not just the non-black women who don't like black women. Most black men don't even like dating black women, fact.

Did you know that out of all the races in the world, Black women and Asian men are the most single people on the planet, fact. Doesn't take a whole lot of smarts to know why.

Because they have an attitude. Only blonds date black men, most I know are abusive.

help me plz, Im bad at math.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Anpu7DCLxf9ZoOoAROJjZDDsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080904165957AAeKKPA

Because a lot of them are rude and have a crazy attitude problem. Of course, not ALL of them are like that.

What do you think about short women dating short men?

I am 5'1 and I've recently met someone who is incredible. We bond on almost every level and I'm incredibly attracted to him but he is short. He's my height! Maybe an inch taller! But as a woman who is used to dating big men I'm realizing that this may present a problem or it will at least be a challenge to say the least. Am I over exaggerating? What do you think?

Totally over exaggerating!

I am the same height as you and I dated someone who was 6"2 for 2 years, my boyfriend now is probably only an inch taller than me and we have been togehter for 9 months. No problems at all, the only issue I ahve is that I cant wear really high heels, but Im over that, just an excuse to shop for more shoes and its better for my back:) Its wonderful, not only can I reach him to kiss him, it doesn't hurt my neck to have my head tilted back so far, and we fit perfectly for cuddling.

Why would you deny incredible chemistry because he is barely taller than you? Go for it you will see it doesnt matter!

Oh not sure if you care about this, but I find the shorter the man, the more...well endowed he is.

The only real issue is that if you have children the possibility is that they will be short too. Not necessarily though. That only makes a difference, especially for the males, in that it has been proven statistically that tall men are more successful in business affairs than short men. If you are in love and otherwise well suited I wouldn't let height get in the way.

how will it be challenging? a short man can do pretty much everything a tall man could do... i cant think of what he wouldn't be able to do!! i usually date shorter guys, not for any reason it's just kind of happened like that! but im now dating a taller guy and its just the same, and its kind of annoying to always have to go on my toes to kiss him! :0)

it seems you have a great base for the relationship already if ur that close so go for it!

well, that depends on your POV. if you don't like the idea of dating someone in your height limit then that's your choice. but sounds like you and him are getting along juts fine. its a step. so your POV on dating short men might change.

You should really ask yourself if you want to date him or not. I personally don't think there's a problem with short women dating short men.

Please answer my question on "Debate: Survival the fittest! Looks will determine a person's authority?"

Remember dear . . size doesn't matter !

What do you think of women dating married men?

I mean, it's just as wrong as a married man dating another women right? Are they both committing a sin here...?

If the lady did not know he was married, I wouldn't think anything less of her but it is the man that I would think less of. He should be man enough to be honest from the get go. Man enough to know not to cross that line and to handle his problem if any at home.

I think that they are both really, really messed up people that have no values, no morals, no ethics and are just plain selfish. They don't care for anyone other than themselves. They will both destroy other people, including innocent children, in their pursuit of pleasure and validation.

People do not have affairs for the sex - they have affairs because they are severely lacking as individuals.

They are the ones that cause 90% of all divorce and get married over and over and over trying to find that "perfect one" when it's not about the other person at all! .

It's all about their own defective character trying to find happiness by manipulating another to their whim and fancy.

They deserve each other!

Not necessarily. It depends totally on the situation of the married person. 1st Corinthians chapter 7 tells spouses that they MUST care for one another's needs sexually or they risk sexual affairs outside the marriage. I believe Paul meant that if a wife fails to keep her husband sexually satisfied (or vice versa) and he has an affair, it is not the other woman who is to blame, but the wife.

I don't.

It is wrong both ways any time one of the protagonists is married.

He is not loving his wife if he is dating outside of marriage, she is not respecting her husband if she is dating outside of marriage.

If they copulate, it's either fornication or adultery - both of which are sins.

Hi,

I would have to say that they are both equally as wrong no matter how you look at it. I don't see how you can truly trust a man in that type of relationship. I mean, if he would date you when he is married what would make you think that he would be faithful to only you?

They are both in the wrong. On moral grounds it is adultery.

Besides the moral issues, nothing good can come from it. It destroys families and causes much grief. If the marriage is not what you want, end it and then have your fun. Their thoughtlessness will come back to bite them in the end.

Dating a married man is a complete waste of time! Heartache and pain is inevitable in those relationships. I will never understand why people think relationships like that can work. Building a relationship on an affair.....that's a great foundation!

I think anyone that is married should only date the person they are married to and that's it, they made a commitment when they got married and they need to stay faithful to the person they are married to.

The woman didn't make the same commitment the husband did, but that's like trying to argue infinity is less than infinity times 2 ... not really convincing in the end.

They're both adulterers, and yes, they're both "sinning".

Yes. Both are committing a sin but it would be bad if she did not know he was married. That would really prove how weak their

relationship was but in da end both are sinning.

Hope this helps. Remember djcrunch everyone.

I don't believe in sin, but I do think it is wrong for a man to date an attached woman and a woman to date an attached man. ALWAYS!

Yes, they are both committing a sin. Infidelity and adultery is wrong. Blame lies on both people, no one can claim to not be at blame in these situations.

yes it's wrong. if a woman dates a married man she is a homewrecker and a scumbag

one tale happened that both women meet, then , both left their boyfriend/husband. Another urban legend is that these women date and become friends...

The married man is much, much more in the wrong. He's the one with the commitment. But the other woman is no saint either.

I can't judge others but I am sure there are underlining factors involved to get to that point.

They are committing adultery, yes they are both at fault.

Yes if she knows that he is married then she is just as wrong.

It all depends on how is that relationship...they are both guilty...but if one of them is in love or get involved with lies...there is guilt from the other one

No big deal....happens all the time. The broads should learn to accept it.

It kills me that women don't have the common courtesy to leave someone elses marriage ALONE. its like they don't get it.

It is wrong according to what I believe morally. I have no respect for cheaters.

Um..obviously!

Cheaters are cheaters in my book...no matter the gender.

yes period

It is WRONG

Yes.

why do you feel it is ok to go beyond acceptable boundaries?

Um...YES...whut?

yeah, I have to say its bad to do that.

How is this a valid argument against black women dating white men?

When black women talk about their frustration with how black men treat them and may choose to date white men...

I have heard the argument that black women will face racism from white men's family if they choose to date them.

This still does not negate the fact that black men are treating black women poorly and it's not defending against how white men will treat them, but rather how society will view bw/wm relationship.

How is this a valid defense?

It isn't a valid argument at all. crappy men come in all shades..so do racist families. u dont have to deal with one just to get the opposite of the other (if that's understandable lol). and ur last bit of info lost me too..seems redundant (or some other word that describes unnecessary info).

Your questions kind of confusing BUT and i know some people are going to get angry at this but yes i feel that majority of black men do treat black women like s***. It doesn't necessarily mean that's the reason they want to date outside of their race though it could be they were attracted to them all along but wanted to give the black men a chance first.

My friend is about to marry a white guy next month....his mother LOVES her and his father has her call him dad. And a blogger I like to read about has a asian husband and she is black and his parents are annoying them about how they want grandkids soon!!! But I careless about anyones feelings. Just the person am dating.

What? What you are asking is so unclear. I see about three separate statements to evaluate and there may be more. Please add details so we don't have to try to figure out what you want commented on in this debate.

Edit: See what you've done by asking this? You've let the scott out again! *damn!*

No it isn't a valid defense. People will be racist no matter what you do, you just have to show them you don't care about their opinion and you will date who you want to date

one of my friends is married to a white guy. if the guy is laid back is family probably is too. a woman, any woman , has those instincts if a relationship will work out.

I don't get it. If someone likes or loves a person, sometimes it doesn't matter how they family think. The last part has me really confused.

Why can't we just love who we want to love without race getting in the way?

It shouldn't matter. That's how I see it.

why do you care mann!

Not all Black guys are like that. But, many Black guys have been beat by their mommas their whole life. Many of their aunts have molested them like in that movie about the little Black boy that joined the Navy and found out who his parents were. Denzel Wahington was in it. I can't remember the name. It was a great movie though.

Good job for those black women.

Majority of black men are no good and tap booty on Fridays and on Mondays they go and drink liquor out of a 40 oz in a paper bag.

Maybe black women receive criticism because white men can do better than loud gang bangers who smoke crack every day

thats black womens problem! black people should stick with their own race...I think it's just their excuse so they can be with a white person and fit into our culture!

Thats unusual since most of us wouldnt date Black girls

I wouldnt and I dont know anybody who would date a Black girl so those cases are very rare.

YOUr Boy Scott

Should Black Women start dating men other than Black men?

Being that like 70% of black men are good for nothing criminals or terrible fathers, why do black women insist on dating them? They have no problem snatching up white women. The black race is in such a horrible state, i would think there is no purpose in being obsessed with keeping the race going pure. The most productive blacks tend to be mixed anyway like Obama.

most of the black females i know have had white partners.

I agree with everything you said except the last sentence. There are plenty of mixed people that are just as f**ked up as anyone esle.

Yes they should you don't know what flavor you like until you taste them all.

You're racist!!!

i mean expand your options!!! find the one u love dont base it on the race

I understand where you're coming from. Black men have a bad rep for being either ghetto, unsuccessful, and/or players. However, I don't think it would be fair for you to say that about ALL Black men. Many people also have negative thoughts towards Black women, believing us to be dominating and aggressive. But of course, there are exceptions to both of these rules.

Finding a good partner shouldn't be limited to racial boundaries. From the way you are speak, you seem to be a well put together and goal-oriented person. The most important thing should be for you to find a man that has similar focuses in life and appreciates you the way you are whether he is white, black, yellow, or magenta. There are a million other aspects of a person that are much more important than race and color.

The reason many Black women insist on dating Black men is simply because it is what they are used to. Black people tend to hang out and associate with other black people so it is natural for them to find partners within their Black social networks. Black women who, like me, are educated, refuse to speak Ebonics, and hang out with people of all ethnicities are typically considered "oreos" and looked down upon as traitors of their own race.

According to Sigmund Freud, women seek men that look and act similar to their own fathers. As a result, they end up looking for partners that resemble themselves. That is the reason why many people date within their own races. Prejudice against other races also plays a huge role.

My advice to you is to be open-minded in your dating experiences. Just like you want Black and White men to get to know you before they pass judgments, try not to judge all Black men negatively based on the way some of them are. In the same token, don't hold White, Latino, or Asian men up on a pedestal. There are good and bad people of every race.

Many Black men such as Martin Luther King who aren't mixed are also productive. It's just that it's much harder for a "pure" Black man to gain as much success as someone like Obama because they have many negative stereotypes that count against them. Obama has many qualities, other than his ethnicity, that have contributed to his success including his intelligence, youth, and reasonably good looks.

How do i tell if a women is into dating other women?

I moved out to Arizona about 3yrs ago and iI am having a very hard time figuring out if the single"lipstick lesbian look-a-likes" women are straight or gay. Whats a good way that i can pick up on the signals saying that she is also a lesbian?

Most "lipstick lesbian look-a-likes" are bisexuals

Niki, I've had good success with online dating. Nearly all are free to join and it's a chat with people before meeting them. http://www.cutelocal.com I bet there are lots of Arizona singles online that you can interact with.

What do you do when the guy you are dating always comments on how good looking other women are? ?

Women he has dated he'll say things like she had pretty face,boobs... Women he sees on TV he does the something! Should say something?

do i back to him

The question is what does it bring up for you?

Tell him how you feel about his behavior. If it bothers you, he should know. If he cares about you, he'll adjust his behavior. If he doesn't, move on.

If he's that easily distracted by other women, he'll most likely dump you as soon as he finds the next "better" girl in his sights.

You deserve a man who gives youhis complete focus, and makes you feel like you're the only one he sees.

Good luck....

JCR

No if you are secure with yourself then it really shouldn't bother you that he says things like that.

I like to hear what he finds attractive so that I know what areas I need to focus on. For example, my ex always commented faces and boobs and butts never once did he ever say anything positive or negative about a little belly on a girl. So in turn I knew that ok I wanna get to him put a little extra mascara on or pay a little extra for the outfits that focused on those areas.

I wouldnt worry about it, I always say you should worry when they dont show any interest at all because those are the sneaky ones.

I'm pretty sure all guys think like that; however only some will actually say in out loud in front of their current girlfriend. Give it back to him and see how he responds after he knows you think there are lots of guys out there that are good looking, maybe even better looking than him.

haha, it's funny cos when i go out with my guy on weekends i check out the chicks too, haha, especially if they're wearing shoes, haha

it works for us, lol, but i hav an open mind

but he's a guy, god made them to lov butts and boobs, don't feel jealous

If it bothers you talk to him. Don't accuse him or be angry. Just calmly explain to him how it hurts your feelings hearing him talk about other women all the time. If he really does care with you he will understand and stop.

If it is a habit and it's getting on your nerves, yes, tell him. Ask him how he would feel if you will comment on how great or good looking your ex or the men you see on tv are.

He's a player. P-L-A-Y-E-R. Trust me i've dated one of these. And you dont want to deal with him, if you know what i mean.

Best of luck;]

A) Stop dating the fool

B) Stop dating the fool

C) Stop dating the fool

OR

D) All of the above

I would just SLAP HIM TO SLEEP. Because he is just dissing me by not complementing me.

hell yeah you should say something!

thats disrespectful

well confront him about it, tell him it bugs u. maybe he'll understand! that's wrong and disrespectful! but alot of guys tend to do it =[

good luck & God Blees =D

It's okay to look, but not touch.

Dump him!

I wish I knew my b/f does this all the time. So Maybe the two of us will get some good answers. LOL

ha he's a guy. it happens. tell him to shut up

What are women looking for at online dating sites?

It seems to me women are making their decisions based on ethnicity/height/money. I haven't had much luck with online dating. I am getting cynical and giving up hope. I am not looking for any particular type of ethnicity - just whoever I find attractive and has a decent job with a college education, like me.

any ideas? Greatly appreciate it.

meal ticket

You dating profile is your representation online, you need to do a fair job with it.

-Jack

http://www.datopia.com/ : Dating meets social networking

You are right. Many women on dating sites are making their decisions based on ethnicity/height/money. If you don't have what most women want on dating sites, then you should try to meet women through other ways. Try nightclubs.

I belong to a dating website. As a woman, I'm looking for love, compatibility, and friendship.

Try this dating site -- ~~MixedFriends. Co m~~ really nice!!

How To Find An Older Women For Dating?

I'm m/49 delhi,divorced.Want to date a 50+woman.Upper age no limit. How do I find one?

Vridhashram.

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Pados me buddhi aurato ko line mariye(aap ki bibi ko pata nahi chale...wayse pata chale to bhi kya problem hai....unhe pata hoga ke uncleji rasiya hai)

By the way, why an old lady with UPPER AGE NO LIMIT....this means that she may be 80,90 yrs old.....baap re baap kya saukh hai uncle....Saukheen ho Uncle....

Wayse kya karoge...I mean Dating or Fu.....or flirting....or shaadi

Saath me picture jaouge, hotel me jaouge, kya karoge.....batao naa uncle.

Jawan Ladki Kyun pasand nahi hai kya Unclejee??? Kya problem hai Jawan ladkiyon me.....aacha sorry...woh ghaas nahi dalegi...correct....

anyways...all the best in ur search.....

Aunteejee milne se mera pranam kehna

aur haa bacche payda mat karna...u know ish umar me...aur 80-90 saal ki mili to jyda pyar mohabbat mat karna....uske life ko risk ho sakta hai.....fir dusri dhoondni padegi

tc uncle

Two halves make one full. As you must be void a woman (may an other woman) in life, there must a woman somewhere in a similar situation. But the catch lies in how to make both of you meet. But I think, advertisement is a good platform where two parties interested for a common or mutual purpose can meet. So try it out. Wish you best of luck.

Start doing various odd jobs for a local old woman. Mow the lawn, take out the garbage, change light bulbs, etc. Sooner or later, one thing will lead to another.

Matchmaker or e-harmony

join a matrimonial website like bharatmatrimony.com,qiran.com etc

Good day

Old folk's home.

Good luck!

ads in the news papers

you could try up some match making session .(All the best !) God bless.

in chillx.com

How do turkish men feel about dating younger women in turkey?

i'm talking about 30 to 34 year old men dating 18 to 19 year old girls. how do turkish men and turkish culture look at this kind of a situation when an older guy dates a younger girl? and is this a common or rare thing?

basiclly, would a guy over 30 date someone who is 18, 19 in turkey? and how is this looked at in your country?

I bet they would feel alright with it unless she is at legal age and if he is capable of satisfy her in every aspect... then again there are those blue pills:)

Though you are addressing this question to Turkish men; I’d like to give my two cents by answering your question as a woman.

It wouldn't matter what country the man is in. Of course, older men would love to date with younger women regardless of what country they are in as long as the laws allow it.

I think men are more visual and women are more thought driven. I also think that not only Turkish men but in general, men, who are dating with much younger women would probably think that their women are staying younger as they get older.

What i feel is "their dating is not my bussiness".

Love is possible for all the age. 10 year of difference doesnt matter much but it is depend on the couple it is peoples free choice.

There is no ridiculous legal restriction about that in Turkey. Plus one one have to marry with whoever she or he date or have sex with.

moral standards differ from person to person.

we turks aren't clones. you do know that we have different opinons.

if you ask my opinion, i don't think that a 30/ 34 year old man should date someone at the ages of 17,18,19. which particularly would be the age of his daughter. its sick and reminds me of pervs.

as for how it looks in Turkey, how do europe approach pervs and peodos?

well, turkey has the same attitude.

According to law, after 18 she is free to sleep whoever she wants. As a turkish person i wouldn't wellcome a 34 years old guy for my 18 years old daughter.

To answer your question you should tell us where, when and who want to marry.. In general, what you asked is not wellcomed by most of the Turks.

oh god are you kidding me!!

of course they'll date younger women

it wouldnt matter if her was 60 he still would date a 18 or 19 year old

it doesnt really look bad in turkey, they dont really care

trust me the younger the better for them

I think this would be found strange and wrong in all countries.

I dated with a man who was 22 years old when I was 16 years old and people were telling me 'wow' or 'you should break up' for even this.

Since the population is all Muslims, it's awkward.. But now-a-days, girls pick whoever they would like. Same for the guys!

how American or British men feel about it good every man wan't a young blond not a 40 odd aging women

turks dont give a sh!t how old you are. they've been all over me since i was 13.

If she not Muslim is OK date her 12 years old. If she Muslim she have to marry first. We have law Muslim girl marry virgin.

How come black women are less into IR dating?

But black men are open to it more?

Is it much worse for a black woman to date outside her race then it is a black man?

I am 100% in to interracial dating and have been in a lot of Interracial relationships so am very much in to inrerraical

=)

Because the black women figured out a long time ago that the grass is not always greener on "the other side"....Men are Men...regardless of their race....they'll screw a broom with a skirt, and are willing to "put a bag over an ugly girls face", "turn the lights off", etc....they just want to get theirs!

i think that if they do, they will hear about more from the black community. it is a double standard, a black woman dates another race she is called a traitor, she's only with him because he has money, or she has meet the right black guy, or it just a phase. i also think that ppl have taken the stereotypic black women to new heights.

I don't think it's that black women are less into IR dating.

I think it's just that white and asian men are less into it, when it comes to black women. So black women just don't have a lot of people outside their own race that are interested in dating them. Probably because of stereotypes of black women.

Ummm...

black women get thrown through the ringer for even thinking about "going there" so to alot of black women it is just easier to not deal with all of that drama

There is a double standard.

alot of black women are taught to fend for themselves but at the same time were taught to know that not ALL black men are terrible. im a black woman and i only perfer black men and yes there are many straight, educated, and great black men around

Im a black (Nigerian) woman and all I pretty much date are white men. I think it depends on the background of the black woman in question... the black community in the USA generally would disapprove of their women dating white men because they are seen as 'sleeping with the enemy'. For example... did you know that black African women, black European women and black Carribean women are more open to interracial dating/marriage than their black American counterparts? Of course the history of slavery and discrimination here in the USA is a HUGE FACTOR for why this is so. However, a lot more black American women are going the interracial route nowadays, than a decade or two ago. They are starting to see that when it comes to love, skin colour shouldnt matter.

This is true, but it's starting to change. I'm in one, for example.

I disagree with you when you say all black men are bad. It's not about hating black men, but about expanding your options.

I know a lot of sistas who date outside their race. I like Hispanics and blacks. It just whatever you prefer.

No,,,,,,,,,,,,,,don't think this is true. I am married to a wonderful Jewish man. IR dating & marriage is a WONDERFUL thing!!!

Guess size does matter! LOL Seriously though where did you get your support/numbers/proof to make this claim? I think racism condemns such relationships which I feel is sad.

True black women are more loyal then black men, like my mom has been and only will get with a black man but all of them have been abusive and its a myth thugs are the only ones like that my mom had hard working guys or business ones.

And the reason for size is stupid.

I do not think that Black women are less into IR dating, I think that we have so much hope and love for our Black men that we refuse to give up on them.

Black men are simply being men. Getting what they can get. Period.

In my opinion it is the same.

Because people in the black community treat them like crap, ecspecially if the guy is white.

It sucks, cause black girls are so sexy.

Why do Filipino men dating foreigners look cool and Filipino women dating foreigners look cheap?

I presume by foreigners you mean " western/white people". Am I right?

1) Western guys who go to the Philippines do not discriminate by class. In most of our countries we are taught that class is no longer important and you can move up by working hard. Hence we date just average ladies- waitresses, cooks, working students- normal, rank-and-file people. We have MA degrees and engineering degrees and we will usually date even people who did not finish high school. We normally don't care. Many guys do not even care if the girl had been a hooker. We just rarely discriminate.

2) We like the Malay type of face- it is so exotic to us and so--o-o sexy. We think a girl with brown skin and a flat nose and big Malay eyes is a sex goddess. Because she is the opposite of what we look like. Opposites attract.We also like small girls because they make us feel macho and strong.

So, you see Western guys with short, brown, flat nosed poor girls for the above reasons. They look gorgeous to us from our cultural perspective, but they do not look too hot from the Filipino society's point of view. Filipinos like tall white skinned Spanish mestiza types. But in our societies, such tall Mexican-looking girls are dime a dozen. Why would we go to the Philippines to find someone who looks like a Mexican?

So, you have a perception difference. What is cheap and poor looking " baduy" to you, is an exotic tropical fruit to us.

Now as far as women go:

1) Women marry up, men marry down. Most Filipino guys are short by Western standards- average is 5' 4"- 5'5" . They also have very small salaries . Why would say, a British woman marry a short, poor Asian guy? Or travel to a far away country on the other side of the globe, spend money on airplanes and hotels to end up with a guy who would often look ridiculous back home by her side?

Do Filipina women fly to Bangladesh and Somalia to look for husbands?

2) Some Western women have trickled to the Philippines but they are very rare there. Anyone who for any reason can catch one will not necessarily be an average guy. Either a bit tall, or handsome or rich, but not your short waiter at a local noodle shop.Not a tricycle driver. Hence, the couple emanates "specialness' when it is in public.

Because you look nice, I shall make an exception and answer seriously.

There is an underlying envy and prejudice in this perception by most of the local crowd.

And yet I cannot, myself, pronounce ill judgment of these opinions. I, myself, am not immune to the sense of perpetuation of the social mores I grew up with. Having to do with preservation of the family and social values.

A Filipina dating a foreigner means chances are she will marry the foreigner and live abroad, thus breaking the continuity of familial ties. A Filipino, on the other hand, is bound to take in the foreign girl, and thus not only maintain the family line in the land, but increase the family as well.

Because people are narrow and judge a relationship based on race.

Seriously, because Filipinos are poor. A Filipina dating a white man would be presumed to be exploited or have sold herself. A Filipino dating a white woman is presumed to have a secret stash of wealth or, despite his much-condemned appearance (short, dark, etc) a really grand lover to be able to keep her.

Last, do you think a Filipino man dating an Arab woman or an African woman would be considered cool? These sorts of judgments tend to privilege only white Americans or white Europeans. Interestingly, I bet a Filipina would be considered cheap or desperate no matter the nationality of the foreigner.

Its your opinion... I only see filipino men with "foreigners" in my country never in the Philippines, btw I got a story from my last time in Cebu City, I was in Robinson with my wife drinking a latte at the entrance floor. A pinay (25-30) is sitting with a westerner , not so old, maybe under 40 and not fat and balding. They are smiling against eachother and he is holding her hand across the table, the girl strikes up a conversation with a waitress and my wife goes to get a napkin. When she comes back she tells me that during the casual conversation between the waitress and the girl (in visaya) the girl comments on the man "may God strike this creep dead". So thats a reason pinays sometimes look cheap to me, no matter how good actress they are , the leechery always shines through.

I strongly disagree with this statement. Most pinoy men are disgusting and ignorant with the smell of smokes and alcohol on their breath and clothing. Few present themselves nicely. The pinay woman however are great on the internet at dating guys, you often see them chatting to many men and managing to get money of them quiet often. It's actually quiet interesting to see this. Pinay women are the best as looking good on the internet.

i understand what you mean. i dont mean to be rude to the filipinos, but honestly, we know how the majority of them think about this. if the most reason for the filipinas to date or get married to foreigners is about financial matters, it's still okay for me.. because filipinas reciprocate it with real care and true love.

BTW, i disagree that it's cheap. and not all filipinas do it for financial securities... just many of them.. not all

for those who say it's cheap, it's the their kind of thinking which is cheap... and shallow.

Seriously? Some Pinays, especially the successful ones, with their high standards and everything, find it hard to find the perfect Filipino husband. That's why they go international! They're just too good for Pinoys.

PS: Ignorant question, btw.

Kudos to TinaBeer!

Honestly people! DO NOT JUDGE OTHERS BASED ON YOUR IGNORANCE!

I'm a Filipina, I dated both Filipinos and other races. One thing I noticed, most of the Filipinos I dated here in the US are either airheads, jerks, cheaters or have way too much drama in their life than I do and I don't think a woman needs that. You would think that because they're Filipinos that they they would know how to treat a woman with respect, unfortunately not. The foreigners actually treated me a lot better than the Filipinos did, so why would I put up with the headache? And for that reason I look effin cheap?! Girl Please!!!

The problem begins when "we" allow ourselves to give a hoot what people think!!!

The blilliance of God shows in the veriety of flowers (women). The fact is just like black men, when one makes it to the top he works twice as hard as the man with the microphone and the power in his hand. But no matter how high he gets theres always those who refuse him full honor. As for women They have always adjusted for survival. Men are always the target of distruction. They are the ones who are attacked in battle, the hated most, in racism. Yet the women are taking in battle and in slavery their raped.

How does it look in America when many white women date the successful black men, especailly the sports stars? Probably because all they really want is a man who can provide for them. And we all know if we tell people don't do this or that. Most likely they end up doing this or that, because curiousity tells us to taste and see for ourselves.

Women are very teachable, they love who their men love and hate who their men hate. But some are brave!!!

Why do many women become prostitutes? Because their drive to survive causes them to sale themselves. Ignoring the pain in order to have something in life.. ...and they, no matter their race, look cheap! But are they cheap? I'm sure they would do better if there were a better way (in their minds).

Meanwhile "we" call them what they are instead of what they could be. We judge them in their pain and hurt, which life pushes on them. But who or what is cheaper? The Philipino men who chooses to date whom he wishes or the philipino women who does the same, Or the Persons who judges those who lives their own lives, without realizing we are all related.

I am sorry but I do not agree with your premise, even if this may be the opinion of the majority. Personally, I think being cool or uncool/cheap does not have anything to do with who we are dating, and from what part of the world they come from.

For instance, if a daughter or granddaughter of Danding Cojuangco were to date a foreigner, would you say that she is cheap?

Just my point of view. Peace.

It's pretty rare to see a filipino guy dating a foreigner. Or atleast I haven't seen that yet. But you do see so many girls with foreigners it's not funny. You know how filipino's are about some certain things. They have alot of face and if they can show off then they will do it. It's just the way things are.

It is your perception. Filipino men here in the U.S. are dating both white and Filipino girls. And neither pair is labeled cheap or cool. My son is married to white girl and my daughter is married to a half-Filipino half-Mexican American. So what it is that concerns you and others I could not fathom.

P.S. I think I have seen this question many times over the past 2 years on YAP. And I've answered it the same way, word for word.

I am married to a Filipino woman. And we have a large age difference. My wife has more class in her little finger than any American woman I have ever dated.

We are proud to stand next to each other out in public. Both in the Philippines and here in America. We walk hand in hand. Anyone that looks down on us, do not know us as a couple.

We have found that those type of people are most often hiding from their secrets or indiscretions. They can take a loooooonngg walk on a very short peir.

We love each other and @ the end of the day, that is all that really matters in this WORLD!!!

i dont think thats true. I never thought of it that way. I was raised in US and i met my husband (he's irish and german) when I was 19yrs old in US. We're the same age. I dont think thats cheap. We met at school when we were both going to college in New Jersey. We are both professionals now. He's an RN and I am a Respiratory therapist.Do you consider that cheap? Just because we fell inlove? Although when he went to the Philippines for the first time people were actually asking me how I met him because we were the same age. They were shocked that he wasnt so much older than me.

Weve been married for almost 8 yrs now. He's 29 and so am i. We have a 6 yr old son and one on the way. We love each other so much and everyday our love keeps growing.Do you consider that cheap?

My cousin is an RN 35 yrs old and she met her husband at her job he's white. They met 10 yrs ago. Her husband is 5 yrs older than her. He's actually a dr. He never been to the Philippines. They met here in US. They have 3 kids and they love each other. Do you consider that cheap?

Even my cousin that is a lawyer in San Franciso graduated University of San francisco. Her boyfriend is half white and half Korean who is also a lawyer.. Do you consider that cheap?

My sis is dating a latino guy. He's actually a yr younger than her. They met at her job. Shes an RN he's a cop. My sis works at a prison. They both like each other. Do you consider that cheap?

You know who i consider cheap? People that dont respect others and themselves....

Thats totally preposterous! People, whatever their nationality, race, or ethnicity, would have a varying look depending on their education, experience, mood, background....Its not with the race! Its not because they are Filipinos! Those who think that way has a fickle mind and has NO respect for others.

I've never thought that. If you're attracted to someone, why does it matter where you're from?

I was in the Navy for 11 years and saw quite a few Filipino women with my fellow sailors. I was just happy for them that they'd found someone to enjoy life with!

With the exceptions of others of course. There are really pairs that are nice to look at. And there are not so nice. Frankly I don't give that much attention. I consider them lucky for they have found a nice partner in life.

zzz... not all but some women who want to be uplifted from poverty. how about you? are you dating a foreigner or a pinoy? hmmm... beer... zzz...

Conditioning.

Perception.

Envy.

Ignorance.

Prejudice.

Judgmental.

Human nature.

coz, filipino men are not usually dating foreign women, but filipina's...people think they're gold diggers...

Speak for yourself kid. My Lady looks fabulous. Anything but cheap and don't think you will take charge around her.

I'm surprised to hear you sound so trollish.

this is a stupid question.

the person who wrote this is a narrow-minded idi0t!

People are sexist. And I am one of them.

we always generalize...

i disagree, maybe you have a low self esteem problem...??

Asian men are the most UNWANTED in the world, so 2 be able 2 pull off a foreigner is probably impressive to most people. Alot of Americans think Asian women are only out 4 money cause of movies & all those websites.

i im a man and i date asian girls mostly chinese

Women: what do you wish every parent taught his or her son about women and dating?

What should we guys do differently? What are the common mistakes? Thanks.

I have 3 boys (still too young to date) but, i want to teach them how to treat women--how to communicate and keeps those communication lines open--how to repect woman & take care of them but NOT smother them--that's it's still okay to open the woman's door, send her flowers and call and actually 'talk'--that sex is something AFTER you have gotten to know the person & want to take it to the next level... at least this is what I'm trying to 'put' into my boys~~

Most women are going to answer in the form of wanting "more respectful, noble, chivalrous guys who aren't pigs and have great personalities", but, this is not true. Women actually only want disrespectful pigs with terrible personalities.

Definitely, that sex is NOT a priority in a relationship... until you are married. That girls are not just there to get you what you want but for both of you to love each other equally.

I wish only one thing...that men would be pulled aside and taught, when they are young, that it will not kill them to make dinner once in a while (I know some men out there cook but really...I'm 24 and have never meet one)

Neve trust a woman to take care of the birth control exclusively. Keep track of your little wigglies!!!!!

Are black women supporting Barack Obama because they dislike white women dating black men?

Blacks are supporting Obama because they do not like whites.

Mercy!!!!! 8-)

Now how did you come to that conclusion? obama's father is black. His mother is white. In fact her forebears owned slaves.

Another race/ election question? Okay, here goes... I support Barack Obama because he protested the war long ago, before he was ever a senator. I said to myself "if he has that kind of insight and courage, and he has no inside information, how awesome will he be if he DOES have inside information?" I decided that if he ever decided to run for president, I'm voting for HIM!

Also, he supports unity in America, and America is horribly angry and broken right now. I can tell by all the racial attacks I get when people find that I am from a military family, and I am against the Iraq war.

I long for a time when Americans can have polital discussions and disagreements without the vicious attacks. Maybe I will see it before I die.

PS-- Who people date is their own business.

It could be that like just about the rest of the US, most black women dislike Hillary Clinton? Nah, couldn't be. :P

well of course!!!!!! get a life!!!

get over yourself...just as many white women dislike black women dating white men.

no people just are crazy

it's all pink on the inside

As a black woman who has dated more than her fair share of white men and women, I am voting for Obama because I beleive who will be the better Commander-in-Chief.

I could care less who dates whom. Unless of course they are dating my girlfriend. THEN there is a problem.

ABSOLUTELY NOT! That to me, a black women, is the most rediculous thing I have heard. Right up there with Farrara's comments. I support Barack Obama becasue he speaks to me. I can relate to him. I think he has the best opportunity to turn our country around to being about the us citizen not the war on terror or the immigrants. If Hilary had a white man opponent, I would give her my vote, but she does't. I am black first, and a woman second. GO OBAMA!!

Shore.

Are black women supporting Barack Obama because they dislike white women dating black men?

Blacks are supporting Obama because they do not like whites.

Mercy!!!!! 8-)

Now how did you come to that conclusion? obama's father is black. His mother is white. In fact her forebears owned slaves.

Another race/ election question? Okay, here goes... I support Barack Obama because he protested the war long ago, before he was ever a senator. I said to myself "if he has that kind of insight and courage, and he has no inside information, how awesome will he be if he DOES have inside information?" I decided that if he ever decided to run for president, I'm voting for HIM!

Also, he supports unity in America, and America is horribly angry and broken right now. I can tell by all the racial attacks I get when people find that I am from a military family, and I am against the Iraq war.

I long for a time when Americans can have polital discussions and disagreements without the vicious attacks. Maybe I will see it before I die.

PS-- Who people date is their own business.

It could be that like just about the rest of the US, most black women dislike Hillary Clinton? Nah, couldn't be. :P

well of course!!!!!! get a life!!!

get over yourself...just as many white women dislike black women dating white men.

no people just are crazy

it's all pink on the inside

As a black woman who has dated more than her fair share of white men and women, I am voting for Obama because I beleive who will be the better Commander-in-Chief.

I could care less who dates whom. Unless of course they are dating my girlfriend. THEN there is a problem.

ABSOLUTELY NOT! That to me, a black women, is the most rediculous thing I have heard. Right up there with Farrara's comments. I support Barack Obama becasue he speaks to me. I can relate to him. I think he has the best opportunity to turn our country around to being about the us citizen not the war on terror or the immigrants. If Hilary had a white man opponent, I would give her my vote, but she does't. I am black first, and a woman second. GO OBAMA!!

Shore.

Do women hold the aces when it comes to dating?

I guy has to ask out a woman- she can decline or accept

A guy is expected to pay for time spent in a leisurely environment while on a date with a woman

A woman decides when she wants to take things 'further' with a guy.

Seems to me that women have the upperhand when dating guys or am I missing something?

Well depends on who asks who out, the person who was asked on the date has the decision of that. Also the date is to just get to know the person anyway, so is he/she is interested in you, then he/she will call back, text, etc. Its usually a guy asking a girl out, and not likely a girl asking a guy out.

though it is flattering to a guy when that happens.

aww well, sure she can decide that, or you can if she asks you out.

it just depends. anyway hope this helps.

well yeah, but women didn't start the tradition...even in the animal world the female has the choice in the male she wants to breed with for the most part.

Ladies: How can men better bring sex out of a large # of women even before/without dating them?

I think this is a big question on men's minds universally, help us figure this out. How can men more easily get sex out of above decent women without dating, relationships and especially money? As far as seeing women at the grocery store who we find very attractive. How can we get that woman in the bed quickly without dating ladies?

Either you'll have to date us or pay us, big player. Take your pick. That's life, cheapskate.

maybe you should look on a corner not the supermarket.

What is the best way to meet women who are worth dating?

I am a 27 year old man who cannot seem to find a woman worth dating or a woman who is interested in me. I am accomplished, I have a career, well-educated and down to earth. What am I doing wrong?

dude...they either think your gay or all of them already have someone.... DATE A PROSTITUE for a while...someone will come along eventually....

You sound just like me. I'm 28, got a college degree, and pretty much what you said. Let me know when you got an answer. lol.

Are you sure you are down to earth?

You sound like a really great guy. I don't know what your doing wrong. You can try online dating or sign up on MySpace.

On the weekend,go someplace in the afternoon or evening where women who share your similar interests congregate, try coffee shops and bookstores if you're into them. Go with a couple of your male friends. If you don't currently have any I suggest you make some buddies. This is because it is easier to meet women when you are with your guy friends. Dress casual and just relax and be yourself. Smile. Have fun, women want to meet a guy who knows how to have a good time.

Try going to your local church. There's always guys that came to mind..and ended up dating some one and became the happiest person ever. It really works.. GOOD LUCK!

How come women never email guys first on dating sites?

Im wondering why a very attractive guy never gets a response from the 3 largest dating sites online? Are women so conceited on online dating sites that they cant email a guy first? Do they lack the confidence or skills needed to communicate in a adult sort of fashion?

life's a ***** ain't it.

Trust me, if men were even HALF as sexually repressed as women, the human population would drop in half.

Why do you think women, generally don't rape men ?

Middle aged guys: How would you feel about dating women who are a bit on the chunky side?

Just wondering how much it matters. Some tell me that it's not such a big deal like when you're younger.....yet others say that they still only are attracted to a woman who is slim and trim.

What do you think?

Well Im younger and that really never made a difference to me. In fact, one girl I recently very much fell for was a bit on that side, but for some reason, I could never get her off my mind. She was simply "perfect".

So for all guys I can tell you, It does not matter that much. Just consider how much you want a guy who is perfectly fit and such, and remember to keep that personality up!

Cheers!

im almost 30, yikes!, but i love a woman with some meat on her gives her good curves and much more appealing than ribs or hip bones stickin out!!!! blah thats so gross!!!

How do i get women to notice me. And how do i get women to go one dates with me via internet dating.?

I need help in creating a good profile and just help with dating. So if any women or men can help me. I would greatly apprciate it.

I'd have to say that the most important thing is to be a happy, well-adjusted guy. Don't play games, be honest, have a sense of humor. Have an optimistic attitude about life, and don't complain. Nobody likes a whiner.

Women aren't looking for a guy whose goal in life is to get a woman. They're looking for a man who knows who the hell he is and has ambition to succeed. Regardless of what the feminazis would have you believe, women want a "real" man who will be a provider and protector, even if they'd never admit it. It's human nature.

Spelling goes a long way. (I'm not ridiculing you). Honestly, it makes you seems intelligent, when I have a bias of men who look for dates on the internet in the first place. I'm not the only one, lots of women I know are skeptical about finding a date on the internet. They feel it's weird, and sometimes corny, even desperate. (Please, please don't take offense). Like the person can't be happy by himself and must find the date they couldn't find in real life.

So the best thing is to approach them as a friend. Meet for something casual. Than, if you click, go from there. For the internet meeting as friends usually works best.

For your profile, just be honest. That's the best thing you can do, and the most attractive. Don't care about what we'll think, I've always found it a turnoff when the guy is out to please everyone. Confidence it great, but for some girls, when a guy is shy it's adorable.

As for dating, you weren't very specific with your question. Maybe if you posted another with a little more info. Either way, good luck.

It all depends on the kind of woman you are looking for. What works for one will have the opposite affect with another.

How about something like this...."perhaps you already know me, you have seen me in your minds eye. I am the man that you have been fantasying for a long time, too long in fact. Now is the time for action!"

I would find this very attracting, however you must live up to it.

Why do black men have such a problem with black women dating white men?

But it's okay for them to date outside their race. I was talking to a friend (who is a black male) and I told him that I dated mostly white guys. He was shocked and he told me that is wrong. I asked him how is a black woman dating a white man wrong and he couldn't even give me an answer. The funny part is, he himself has dated outside his race. I don't get it, why do black men have such a problem with black women dating white men?

I'm a black guy and I don't see anything wrong with black women dating white men, vice versa. My sister is married to a white man and has three kids by him.

Listen to me, and this is coming from a black guy, if you want to interracially marry with a white guy, go right ahead! Everybody's mixing. Welcome to 2008.

They have a problem with it because they cannot believe that black women don't find them to be the most desirable men in the world to be with like everybody else advertises. Another thing they get mad because they know that there is something that a white man, hispanic, asian etc has that he hasn't got.

I'm going to take a wild guess: maybe they feel they are being dissed. In other words, if you prefer white men, then that means (in their little minds) that black men aren't good enough.

I have seen this many times in the opposite combination. Some black women get totally IRATE when they see a black man with a white woman. I sometimes get the impression that they are thinking "Why does he think white women are better than black women?" and thus feeling put down by it.

when i was young and dumb it would bother me when white women dated black men as my life went on and i started to understand how stupid this was and my older sister started to date a black man and he mad her happy and that is what it is all about if the guy treats her good and she loves him that's all any of us want for each other I'm sure we all need to grow up now that i have three grown kid's and love them more than anything all i hope is who ever they date they treat each other with love and respect

I dont have a problem with it. Thats your business.

the way I see it, if you want to be with a white guy then we probably did not have that much in common to start with.

why would anybody have a problem with anybody dating anybody? as a blk guy i dont care who dates who. hallie berry with a white guy and i aint mad at her, im happy if she happy

i guess because white men raped black women on the plantation, they raped and mutilated their bodies, cut live babies out of their pregnant bellies, burned them alive, whipped them senseless and enslaved the offspring that they sired with them. Their bi-racial offspring just became a lighter skinned underclass. Then the white gov't sought to destroy the Black family through biological warfare (man-made diseases), through lynching Black men and women (now they just throw young Black men in jail), and keeping the Black men out of many sectors of employment. Also the White controlled media defined beauty in America as a blonde blue eyed woman. NOT a sexy, brown skinned, braided, afro'd Black woman. And then look what happened. Black woman started wearing Blonde weaves and green contacts. Just look at Lil Kim. So if White men respect and honor Black women so much, why has he degraded and disrespected Black women for so many centuries?

I don't think that Black guys sit there and think of all of things that i mentioned when they see a Black woman with a White man. But I think some Black men, they just know something is not right about it. They have a vague awareness of the injustice that Black women have suffered at the hands of White men historically and currently.

I don't know how your friend justifies his dating outside of his race, but that would be an interesting conversation to have.

Maybe it's just ego.

I know what you mean.... try dancing with a white guy at a club and having a black guy (whose black friend is in the corner dancing with a white girl!) tell you 'he doesnt think you should be dancing with that WHITe BOY'..... his words.. that happened to me. I exclusively date white guys because I find myself more attracted to them. Ive been called all sorts of names because I have a preference and have been told that its wrong for me to date white men or that I 'need' to find myself a black man. Mind you, I dont hate black men .... (I love people of all races) however Im not that attracted to black men. Ignorant people like that need to be ignored, because they are only showing how racist, insecure and jealous they are.... which is REALLY PATHETIC.

oh boy!..........

((sigh)) I've said this countless of times.... not all black men have a problem with that. The ones I know do not even care!

please STOP generalizing!

Same reason many white guys have issues with white women dating black men - it's a weird combination of racial possessiveness and jealousy. Why it should matter to me who someone else chooses to date has always escaped me - but then, I never had kids, I've been told I'd understand better if I had...

As a black male I don't have a problem with it. In fact, I don't have a problem with any black person dating a white person, unless they date white people EXCLUSIVELY. Because that's like saying your own people aren't good enough for you. It's called self-hatred, which is usually on such a deep subconscious level that those that do don't even realize it. They think dating whites exclusively is just a mere preference. But your right, there is a lot of hypocrisy with black males when it comes to this. Most of my boys (who are black) have dated at least one white girl, but they can't stand to see a GOOD LOOKING black female with a white guy, makes no sense.

That's right. Who cares?!

As long as people love & respect each other,

more power to them.

God Bless You.

Same reason why MOST MEN have problems with their race of women dating outside their race...

MEN (your white men too) all get angry about stuff like that..

Usually women tend to be more liberal about it, some aren't but MOST are..reason why I think it's bull when a white chick says LOTS of black chicks are jealous of them for dating black dudes...It's usually the men in all cases

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How to express my preference for thin women online dating sites ?

My preference is for thin women.

There is someone for everyone but my own type is thin.

How can I specify that online without evoking finger wags and hate ???

Just write a list of physical attribute you look for like: prefer someone who is asian, dark hair and slim.

By using the word PREFER you are not saying no to other types and its more subtle.

Who cares what others think - you are entitled to your preferences. I wrote that i prefer tall guys in my profile.

You should not feel any shame or shy to express your preference because it is the matter of your life. So mention that you prefer a thin girl in your ad in a polite manner.

Only you can do the best thing since you know yourself the best. You may refer to some profile tips at the dating tips site http://link.millionairecupid.com , follow the profile tips tag.

I agree with the answerer who said use the word "prefer". That is your type and everybody likes different things.

specify what build you want, or otherwise, you will both be dissapointed. lol

anorexics with size 0 welcomed, if you dare to consume food, stay the f... away? :p

well u dont have to specifically write that down...u may also like a bit more curvy girls..

Just say, "No fatties". People will like you for your assertiveness.

How can we get Black women dating White Men more?

I think thats the hottest Interracail couples to me! I wish that we can see more of it then those Asian women with White men.

I already see a lot of black women dating white men. Among my group of friends (myself included), we are four black women with white boyfriends/husband. YOU ON THE OTHER HAND NEED TO SHUT THE FOOK UP AND GROW SOME SELF ESTEEM...........SERIOUSLY!!!

"How can 'we' get....?" "Asian women are stealing....."? WTF??? Child, PLEASE!!! Who the hell is "we"? How are Asian women, or any other women stealing any men from "us", when "we" don't "own" any men? And what is your particular issue with Asian women anyways? Just because you can't find a man, don't blame it on any other group of women. Grow up. Get over yourself. Get a life. Stop posting stupid crap. Stop trolling. And most of all, stop trying to make other black women look bad. You are a total embarrassment.

It's all in the persons personal taste, but why do you always ask this question... it's tired.

white men are easy to hook up with with. this is what you gotta do. ACT LIKE A WHITE GIRL. say oh my god,and becky look at her butt it's soooo big. and when they yell at you don't say anything and then start to cry

Stop treating White men like they are Black men. Sticking your nose up like you "don't want them". And then wondering why they don't talk to you!

There is nothing special about white guys TRUST ME!! ..they are just like every guy in different cultures.. you have your good ones and you have your bad ones. STOP treating White guys like royalty. THEY ARE NO BETTER THAN ANY ETHNICITY! Why do you want a white man so bad?? you treat it like it's a life or death situation if you don't have a white man as soon as possible.

and Newsflash: any couple can be hot if LOVE IS involved. NOT just interracial couples.

how can we get you to go play outside??

Why are you so Jealous of Asian women?

I hope you get teleported to a portal where there in nothing but white men and you have no other choice but to date white.

One day you will turn white.

INTO A WHITE MAN!

sorry but i dont want a white man

why should you care about other people you dont know social lifes why dont you just try to date more white men and not worry about other people in that department

we cant its up to them who they like other wise its not going to work

Just because you hate Asians and love white men doesn't mean everybody should follow your stupid ideas, shutup and go to bed .

Why do you care who anyone other then yourself dates?

WHY DO WOMEN GIVE MEN THREE TRIES TO GET THE DATING RIGHT?

I started dating a woman a few months ago, she broke up with her boyfriend for the second time 6 months prior to me dating her. She said that there was no way they would ever get back together but two months after I began dating her she dumped me and went back to her old boyfriend for the third time. Why does this happen?

Because women are crazy. She could have got tired of him when she started dating you,then after dating you for a while she started to missing him. You do know that they had to been communicating and possibly seeing each other while you and her were dating in order for them to rekindle their love?

Basically it happened because she doesn't know what she wants.

Maybe the woman in question has only been exposed to 'bad' dates and jumps to the conclusion all are the same.

What is a good website to find latina women for dating/relationships?

I would like to find a good woman....doesn't matter which country she lives in. I am just wondering what is the best website to find latin women that are looking to date and/or have a serious relationship.

Visit this site http://surl.in/HLMAT261252BMRMTGQ

so you like ous, well i was born in Puerto Rico raise in Dominican Republic, i got the best of the caribe

I had GREAT luck here at Yahoo

met my fiance' here about 2 years ago

but it will matter haw far away you live - tough to have a relationship with someone 2000 miles away.

J

Should i tell my parents I'm dating an Asian women?

My dad is kinda racist in a way. He only wants me to be dating white women preferably European since i am European.

Should i hide this or tell them?

No, bring her home to meet them without telling them.

That would be an unforgettable introduction: "Surprise dad....here's my new girlfriend!

Um talk with him about dating other people and if he does not like you dating someone else he does not like tell him. For instance my dad is Italian and my my Is Puerto Rican I'am mixed myself and I go out with a African American don't let your dad bring you down i cannot stand when people are racist it's good to be different there's nothing wrong with dating asian women

I think you’ll probably be able to find the answer to your dilemma at Lisa Daily’s site, http://www.datingexpert.tv (Plus, there’s a lot of good info there.) She’s the author of two dating books, HOW TO DATE LIKE A GROWN-UP and STOP GETTING DUMPED. It’s one of my favorite sites for dating tips and advice, and the videos are pretty funny.

I’m pretty sure she answers questions that are sent to her, you might try her for an answer to your question.

Tell him! You should be able to date who ever you want although it would be nice to have his approval, it's not really needed.

JACKPOT!!!!you should TOTALLY date an asian chick..THEY ARE...FOOOOOOOOOOND!!!!!!!!!

rub it in his face

he sounds like a moron

What do you think of a 28 yo women dating a ALMOST 23 yo man?

The 28 yo looks much younger than she is.. the guy is pretty mature. Everyone is encouraging her to go out with him on a date.

What would you think of that?????

Absolutely nothing wrong with that. If they like one another, they should go for it. At those ages, 5 years isn't too much of a factor.

Im 44 and my guy of going on 5 years is 22. Do what makes you happy. Dont do or not do it just because of what others tell you to do. They are just a brain minus the body. You will never make it if you care what others think.

Hey girl! I'm in your same boat. The younger guys love me (I'm 28 too). Anyway - go for it! If anything you'll have a good time and get a free dinner out of the deal.

im 23 and i keep dating 21 yr olds... i think a girl shoud date younger... my opinion. when i am 28 ill be dating 23 year olds.

i think its a great idea.. they are alot of fun!

You're both legal. So why not? Have fun.

If it's real, no problem

It's fine

Do men like dating women that have several kids from a prior relationship?

Are men more turned off when a woman states that she has 3 children? And does not plan to have any more because she tied her tubes. All the children have the same father though they are 4 years old and under.

That is a complicated question to answer. I know that it would not necessarily turn me off. However, there are other factors to consider.

1. Who has custody of the children?

2. What is the woman like as a mother to her children?

3. What does the woman expect of me as her children's step-father? (I do not get into a relationship without at least considering the possibility of marriage at some point).

4. How do the kids respond to me?

5. How involved is the father of the kids?

6. Are there unresolved issues between the woman and her ex especially in relationship to the kids?

I could go on. But that is enough to show you how complex your question really is.

It depends on the guy. A lot of men are intimidated by a woman with so much "baggage", not to say that your children are not a blessing, but it's one thing to be with a woman and to have your own children and it's completely another to start dating a woman who already has children. Men who date women with children have no control over the children's behavior or discipline, and this makes it very difficult for them to deal with the kids when they misbehave. Also, a lot of men are intimidated by the woman's close relationship with the ex/father of the children-in most relationships, the ex is completely out of the picture and is no threat to the new relationship, and in the case where children are involved, the ex is going to be around constantly and the woman has contact with him. Many guys aren't turned off by a woman who has kids, but it definitely takes a certain kind of guy to deal with this complex and intense situation.

I know a psychologist that would tell you to raise the children, then think about dating again. It would take a very special person to want to raise three children that are not even his. You will have time to date after the children are grown. A man that left a marriage that had three children may go after a woman with three children. But I can see many problems in all this but many people are doing it.

They aren't necessarily turned off; it just depends on what each individual man wants regarding his own life. For instance, a guy who's been married before and already has kids of his own and doesn't want to have any more might not mind; whereas a single guy who wants to settle down and build a family might object, or want you to get the tubes reversed. It's best to make it known right up front, with potential boyfriends, that you have three kids and don't plan on more. That's easily thrown into casual conversations. Good luck@!

I think that it depends on the guy. You have to be honest with him upfront so there are no surprises. I put it like this, I am a mother of 4 kids, and if my husband ever decides to leave or vise versa, the next person that comes along is either going to accept the fact that I have 4 kids or they can keep moving. I am sure your kids come first in your life, and thats how you should always look it at. IF a man is turned off by the fact that you have kids, then he is not the right one for you or your children. Good luck

I have 3 boys & had my tubes tied after I had my youngest. My ex always told me I would never find someone to put up with my kids. Dumba** forgot they were his too. Well, I found someone when my youngest was 6 & my oldest was 12 who loves ME & OUR kids. So as far as being tuned off, I don't think it's that, it's just finding a man who loves YOU & the package you come with. And if you think about it, they aren't a package, they are your kids...

Its some and some. Some men would be bothered by it, but the right man will think your worth it.

I know lots of second time around, step families that are really happy and make it work. It does take a special man to take on stuff like that on, but why would you want a man that isn't special? I think just be honest with the man about stuff and things will happen for the best.

no its not a turn of. its sorta neutral. it depends on the guy mainly. but make sure not to hide it from whoever your dating. and youll find the right one out there

well the number of kids do not matter wut matters is if u still have feelings for the other guy.everyone deserves a chance even though they allready had a relashionship

Depends on the guy...some won't be interested, others won't care. Chances are that the younger a guy is, the less likely he'll want to get involved with someone who has kids.

no no no no no no!

men wanna make there own....

No way! Most men do not like taking care of other another man's kids.

Yes, big turn off.

MEN WILL NEVER LIKE U

Why are black women so bitter towards white women dating black men?

It's a free country and people date outside their race all the time but I have noticed that when a white woman dates a black man, black women have something nasty to say about it! Why would that offend black women?

No so much racist as it is a numbers thing. There are so many of our men dead, in jail, or trying hard to be one or the other that the number of brothers that want to make a good life and have a family is cut waaaay down. Now subtract the gay and the various problem children and the numbers are cut even more. We won't even go into the number of sisters with degrees and good jobs vs the number of brothers with the same. Pickings is slim if you want a real shot at the American dream. Now with that great disparity, you see eligible brothers going with white women. Not racist, just numbers. Every decent one you take, is one less for a sister to find.

Well, assuming that you don't walk around with him like he's a trophy with your nose up at black women....

I would venture to guess that there's just as many white women that are disgusted with white men getting with black women, as there are black women that are upset that white women are getting with black men.

I would also take a wild guess that these women, whether white or black in each situation, simply have a low self-esteem, and playing the "race card" is the easiest way to boost it.

Since you married him and plan to be with him til death, you might as well sit back and get ready to deal with this til then, because I really don't think this problem will go away any time soon. That comes with the package of inter-racial relationships. Trust me, I know. My wife is asian.

Because they might like to discriminate people because black and white people didn't get along before, and that little law stuck to those people. The black might have remembered how they got treated unfairly. Or, those black women just doesn't like the white women and doesn't want the women to date a black men. :)

Perception of "White Women" as an extension of "Jim Crow" expresses the insecurities of generations. In a primitive sense "White Women" have resurrected the authority to sensually use "black men" in a manner similar to how slave masters used "slave women".

"White Women" give the impression of entitlement to the mythical ebonic pleasure.

The more things change. The more things appear to remain the same.

Excuse me?

This statement is a hasty generalization..

Not ALL black women have a problem with white women dating black men..

I am a black female and I date outside my race.. I do not find interracial relationships a problem..

However, the same way that a white men may be offended with a white women or his daughter dating a black man the same way a black woman may feel offended..

Not everyone supports interracial relationships..

I think some people grow up with a certain hatred or understanding that they only be with their own 'kind' and therefore they get upset to see otherwise..

Some black women get upset because they only dat eblack men and therefore, the choices become less i suppose

And some are upset because it seems that rich or educated black men are dating white women..

I personally have no problem with interracial dating because i like everyone no matter their race...

So please next time address your question correctly.. it is quite offensive..

Honestly, I do not care what color a man is as long as he treats me right... there also has to be some chemistry of course...

If you two want each other then great for you...

However, it does bother me when I see black men that date white women to make themselves feel less black... the woman usually treats him like her personal slave... and he likes it... so again.... thanks for taking the pathetic looser off of our hands...

and it probably bother black women because black men will walk out on their own black family as if it were nothing... but marry a white woman and treat her like a queen just because she is not black...

It's pathetic...

The Obama's are truly a symbol of hope for black families....

God Bless,

Ms S

first question: why are you stealing some black woman's boyfriend? just kidding ;-)

seriously, that's a bold stereotype you're throwing out there, but the bottom line: living in a free country doesn't equal freedom from cultural values, however unfair/antiquated/lame they may seem

you are always, i mean always, going to run into people hating on other people for various reasons be it race, religion, gender, political affiliation. besides... if you watch Maury, you know there are black women that are ready to hate on anybody trying to steal their man!

i see that someone didn't like my sense of humor - so let me qualify myself... parents are interracial (white mom/black dad) and married since '69. and my dad was never even allowed in my mother's parents house... as in never.

back to my main point... this isn't so much a black woman thing as it is a cultural thing. if you can grasp the world view of someone that hates on you, then you can see their justification. chances are, though, its never going to make the 'hate' feel 'right' - so everybody cut everybody some slack

Not every black woman says these things..and usually the ones who do think this have the cooth to keep it to themselves . But the ones who do say something all you can do is ignore it...don't belittle them back cause you are only stooping to their level.

In my scenario (living in the South)I have had a problem more so with white men saying "I am ruined for marrying a N****r" Now I know not all white men think this so I got to ignore it and go on with my life.

Love comes out of nowhere and from all walks of life. If your are open to it you can see it.

its like how white men get mad that the black men are takeing all the white girls, and the black girl's don't want to be with the short guy.

also some people are kinda territorial about colour, that blacks should stay with blacks, whites with whites, Arabs with Arabs, and Asians with Asians.

I personal believe the oceans separated us for a reason. and that we aren't suppose to be mixing so much. I grew up in France (born here, parents American) , and there is little mixing. here is America, I try to stay as close to my roots as possible, I'm of French/ Swedish/ Irish decent, my husband, is French/ German decent.

There are plenty of couples featuring a white male and black female. For crying out loud. People, of any race, can be ignorant. That's what it is. Some people think they are entitled to certain things and no one else is. Everyone needs to just understand that not everyone is going to be attracted to the people they are expected to be attracted to. Love comes in many different ways.

since u r asking i guess i can answer for most when i say i could care less esp when they get a scrubbie but its annoying when they look at the black women like yeh i got one as if we care. or if the man looks at black women as trashy or ghetto when their own mama is black! my bro has been wit his white girl for 13 years and they have 3 kids and HER family call the kid NIgs and isolate dthemselves from her! we BLACKS glady accept her and the kids so mayb u need to get ur facts str8 and trace back who hates who the most! and get a life y r u asking racist stuff anyway? wht a loser!

Ok, I have to respond to one of the answers before anything..for the person who said that black men are all that black woman have because white men dont date black women...helloooo? White and black are not the only two races in the world. Mmm k.

Oh, and I've seen white guys dating black women...so it's not even rare like that.

And finally...I think it's because some black people still just have a little resentment towards white people...it may be subconscious...

And also...some guys forget their own race when they get a chance at a white girl...or so I see it to be in certain situations...they think its special or something...dont know why. They fail to see women as equal. So yeah...it's not right, but there will be pissed off women of the same race

LETS JUST CLEANSE OURSELVES FROM THE STEREOTYPES!

more white woman talk **** about white guys dating blacks then anything.... wow you should see the white guys that get mad about other white guys dating black woman... they call you wigger and **** like that... you think you got it bad?

you should talk to my homie, hes white and gets hated on everyday for having a black girlfriend.

I have started to see some white men dating black women, but most interracial dating in their community consists of black guys dating white gals. They are po'd because you are limiting their dating options.

I've noticed that too. Good question.

Frankly I think the black women should try dating white guys. I would date a black woman in a heartbeat. Woof!

Who said black girls are against white women dating black men? Maybe if girls (possibly like you) didnt get all over their man, they wouldnt have a problem with you =).

because thats all they have. most white men dont want to date black woman so all they have is black men left and they dont want us crackers stealing them!

I would not mess with a black chick im a guy and even i am scared of them, they have no fear...

idk. im asian. LOL

no their not its mostly white men

black women get offended because there are black men who look down on black women. not everyone is the same. people have stereotypes about one another. often times black men may feel that white women are "easy" but with a black woman there is extra drama. black women nowadays tend to be more independent and its not necessarily an option. This causes that toughness that can be unattractive. There are white women who rub it in black womens face that they are dating a black man and then do things to try to be like a black woman. Black women were deemed as unattractive because of big lips big nose and curves but now people are making alterations to their bodies to be like black women.

It is a free country, but i think it has more to do with being wanted. most white men date or rather marry white women, but black men do not marry black women as often. There was a segment on the tyra show about race and black women even have issues sometimes when fairer black women date black men. it is a free country (somewhat) but its still a competition when there are less straight men, more homosexuals, and even less men to women. what is it nowadays? 1 man to every 5 women or something like that.

To understand this nastiness towards white women, you must first understand that in many black communities males die very young and do not make it to adulthood. With this lack of available males and a ratio of 2 women for every 1 man black women cant afford to lose another to ANY other ethnic group. Another reason why they are so offended is because the way they were raised. Women in black communities are taught to be VERY outspoken and (for lack of a better word) ghetto. In conclusion, many black women are do not know what they do when they mistreat their Caucasian counterparts so cut them some slack, they do not have many guys to work with in their communities.

Maybe if more were open to dating outside their race they would not feel this way. A lot of black women just prefer black men. Reality is there are more black people on this planet than white people. If black women are so fed up with this, why don't they visit Africa? There are more black men there than in America and lots of them would love to have an American wife of any color! Problem solved!

because black women are jealous and their attitude smells like skunk odor

Because you take their men!

No white guy dates a black girl.

Cuz dey skanky *** hoes.