No so much racist as it is a numbers thing. There are so many of our men dead, in jail, or trying hard to be one or the other that the number of brothers that want to make a good life and have a family is cut waaaay down. Now subtract the gay and the various problem children and the numbers are cut even more. We won't even go into the number of sisters with degrees and good jobs vs the number of brothers with the same. Pickings is slim if you want a real shot at the American dream. Now with that great disparity, you see eligible brothers going with white women. Not racist, just numbers. Every decent one you take, is one less for a sister to find.
Well, assuming that you don't walk around with him like he's a trophy with your nose up at black women....
I would venture to guess that there's just as many white women that are disgusted with white men getting with black women, as there are black women that are upset that white women are getting with black men.
I would also take a wild guess that these women, whether white or black in each situation, simply have a low self-esteem, and playing the "race card" is the easiest way to boost it.
Since you married him and plan to be with him til death, you might as well sit back and get ready to deal with this til then, because I really don't think this problem will go away any time soon. That comes with the package of inter-racial relationships. Trust me, I know. My wife is asian.
Because they might like to discriminate people because black and white people didn't get along before, and that little law stuck to those people. The black might have remembered how they got treated unfairly. Or, those black women just doesn't like the white women and doesn't want the women to date a black men. :)
Perception of "White Women" as an extension of "Jim Crow" expresses the insecurities of generations. In a primitive sense "White Women" have resurrected the authority to sensually use "black men" in a manner similar to how slave masters used "slave women".
"White Women" give the impression of entitlement to the mythical ebonic pleasure.
The more things change. The more things appear to remain the same.
Excuse me?
This statement is a hasty generalization..
Not ALL black women have a problem with white women dating black men..
I am a black female and I date outside my race.. I do not find interracial relationships a problem..
However, the same way that a white men may be offended with a white women or his daughter dating a black man the same way a black woman may feel offended..
Not everyone supports interracial relationships..
I think some people grow up with a certain hatred or understanding that they only be with their own 'kind' and therefore they get upset to see otherwise..
Some black women get upset because they only dat eblack men and therefore, the choices become less i suppose
And some are upset because it seems that rich or educated black men are dating white women..
I personally have no problem with interracial dating because i like everyone no matter their race...
So please next time address your question correctly.. it is quite offensive..
Honestly, I do not care what color a man is as long as he treats me right... there also has to be some chemistry of course...
If you two want each other then great for you...
However, it does bother me when I see black men that date white women to make themselves feel less black... the woman usually treats him like her personal slave... and he likes it... so again.... thanks for taking the pathetic looser off of our hands...
and it probably bother black women because black men will walk out on their own black family as if it were nothing... but marry a white woman and treat her like a queen just because she is not black...
It's pathetic...
The Obama's are truly a symbol of hope for black families....
God Bless,
Ms S
first question: why are you stealing some black woman's boyfriend? just kidding ;-)
seriously, that's a bold stereotype you're throwing out there, but the bottom line: living in a free country doesn't equal freedom from cultural values, however unfair/antiquated/lame they may seem
you are always, i mean always, going to run into people hating on other people for various reasons be it race, religion, gender, political affiliation. besides... if you watch Maury, you know there are black women that are ready to hate on anybody trying to steal their man!
i see that someone didn't like my sense of humor - so let me qualify myself... parents are interracial (white mom/black dad) and married since '69. and my dad was never even allowed in my mother's parents house... as in never.
back to my main point... this isn't so much a black woman thing as it is a cultural thing. if you can grasp the world view of someone that hates on you, then you can see their justification. chances are, though, its never going to make the 'hate' feel 'right' - so everybody cut everybody some slack
Not every black woman says these things..and usually the ones who do think this have the cooth to keep it to themselves . But the ones who do say something all you can do is ignore it...don't belittle them back cause you are only stooping to their level.
In my scenario (living in the South)I have had a problem more so with white men saying "I am ruined for marrying a N****r" Now I know not all white men think this so I got to ignore it and go on with my life.
Love comes out of nowhere and from all walks of life. If your are open to it you can see it.
its like how white men get mad that the black men are takeing all the white girls, and the black girl's don't want to be with the short guy.
also some people are kinda territorial about colour, that blacks should stay with blacks, whites with whites, Arabs with Arabs, and Asians with Asians.
I personal believe the oceans separated us for a reason. and that we aren't suppose to be mixing so much. I grew up in France (born here, parents American) , and there is little mixing. here is America, I try to stay as close to my roots as possible, I'm of French/ Swedish/ Irish decent, my husband, is French/ German decent.
There are plenty of couples featuring a white male and black female. For crying out loud. People, of any race, can be ignorant. That's what it is. Some people think they are entitled to certain things and no one else is. Everyone needs to just understand that not everyone is going to be attracted to the people they are expected to be attracted to. Love comes in many different ways.
since u r asking i guess i can answer for most when i say i could care less esp when they get a scrubbie but its annoying when they look at the black women like yeh i got one as if we care. or if the man looks at black women as trashy or ghetto when their own mama is black! my bro has been wit his white girl for 13 years and they have 3 kids and HER family call the kid NIgs and isolate dthemselves from her! we BLACKS glady accept her and the kids so mayb u need to get ur facts str8 and trace back who hates who the most! and get a life y r u asking racist stuff anyway? wht a loser!
Ok, I have to respond to one of the answers before anything..for the person who said that black men are all that black woman have because white men dont date black women...helloooo? White and black are not the only two races in the world. Mmm k.
Oh, and I've seen white guys dating black women...so it's not even rare like that.
And finally...I think it's because some black people still just have a little resentment towards white people...it may be subconscious...
And also...some guys forget their own race when they get a chance at a white girl...or so I see it to be in certain situations...they think its special or something...dont know why. They fail to see women as equal. So yeah...it's not right, but there will be pissed off women of the same race
LETS JUST CLEANSE OURSELVES FROM THE STEREOTYPES!
more white woman talk **** about white guys dating blacks then anything.... wow you should see the white guys that get mad about other white guys dating black woman... they call you wigger and **** like that... you think you got it bad?
you should talk to my homie, hes white and gets hated on everyday for having a black girlfriend.
I have started to see some white men dating black women, but most interracial dating in their community consists of black guys dating white gals. They are po'd because you are limiting their dating options.
I've noticed that too. Good question.
Frankly I think the black women should try dating white guys. I would date a black woman in a heartbeat. Woof!
Who said black girls are against white women dating black men? Maybe if girls (possibly like you) didnt get all over their man, they wouldnt have a problem with you =).
because thats all they have. most white men dont want to date black woman so all they have is black men left and they dont want us crackers stealing them!
I would not mess with a black chick im a guy and even i am scared of them, they have no fear...
idk. im asian. LOL
no their not its mostly white men
black women get offended because there are black men who look down on black women. not everyone is the same. people have stereotypes about one another. often times black men may feel that white women are "easy" but with a black woman there is extra drama. black women nowadays tend to be more independent and its not necessarily an option. This causes that toughness that can be unattractive. There are white women who rub it in black womens face that they are dating a black man and then do things to try to be like a black woman. Black women were deemed as unattractive because of big lips big nose and curves but now people are making alterations to their bodies to be like black women.
It is a free country, but i think it has more to do with being wanted. most white men date or rather marry white women, but black men do not marry black women as often. There was a segment on the tyra show about race and black women even have issues sometimes when fairer black women date black men. it is a free country (somewhat) but its still a competition when there are less straight men, more homosexuals, and even less men to women. what is it nowadays? 1 man to every 5 women or something like that.
To understand this nastiness towards white women, you must first understand that in many black communities males die very young and do not make it to adulthood. With this lack of available males and a ratio of 2 women for every 1 man black women cant afford to lose another to ANY other ethnic group. Another reason why they are so offended is because the way they were raised. Women in black communities are taught to be VERY outspoken and (for lack of a better word) ghetto. In conclusion, many black women are do not know what they do when they mistreat their Caucasian counterparts so cut them some slack, they do not have many guys to work with in their communities.
Maybe if more were open to dating outside their race they would not feel this way. A lot of black women just prefer black men. Reality is there are more black people on this planet than white people. If black women are so fed up with this, why don't they visit Africa? There are more black men there than in America and lots of them would love to have an American wife of any color! Problem solved!
because black women are jealous and their attitude smells like skunk odor
Because you take their men!
No white guy dates a black girl.
Cuz dey skanky *** hoes.
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