That is a complicated question to answer. I know that it would not necessarily turn me off. However, there are other factors to consider.
1. Who has custody of the children?
2. What is the woman like as a mother to her children?
3. What does the woman expect of me as her children's step-father? (I do not get into a relationship without at least considering the possibility of marriage at some point).
4. How do the kids respond to me?
5. How involved is the father of the kids?
6. Are there unresolved issues between the woman and her ex especially in relationship to the kids?
I could go on. But that is enough to show you how complex your question really is.
It depends on the guy. A lot of men are intimidated by a woman with so much "baggage", not to say that your children are not a blessing, but it's one thing to be with a woman and to have your own children and it's completely another to start dating a woman who already has children. Men who date women with children have no control over the children's behavior or discipline, and this makes it very difficult for them to deal with the kids when they misbehave. Also, a lot of men are intimidated by the woman's close relationship with the ex/father of the children-in most relationships, the ex is completely out of the picture and is no threat to the new relationship, and in the case where children are involved, the ex is going to be around constantly and the woman has contact with him. Many guys aren't turned off by a woman who has kids, but it definitely takes a certain kind of guy to deal with this complex and intense situation.
I know a psychologist that would tell you to raise the children, then think about dating again. It would take a very special person to want to raise three children that are not even his. You will have time to date after the children are grown. A man that left a marriage that had three children may go after a woman with three children. But I can see many problems in all this but many people are doing it.
They aren't necessarily turned off; it just depends on what each individual man wants regarding his own life. For instance, a guy who's been married before and already has kids of his own and doesn't want to have any more might not mind; whereas a single guy who wants to settle down and build a family might object, or want you to get the tubes reversed. It's best to make it known right up front, with potential boyfriends, that you have three kids and don't plan on more. That's easily thrown into casual conversations. Good luck@!
I think that it depends on the guy. You have to be honest with him upfront so there are no surprises. I put it like this, I am a mother of 4 kids, and if my husband ever decides to leave or vise versa, the next person that comes along is either going to accept the fact that I have 4 kids or they can keep moving. I am sure your kids come first in your life, and thats how you should always look it at. IF a man is turned off by the fact that you have kids, then he is not the right one for you or your children. Good luck
I have 3 boys & had my tubes tied after I had my youngest. My ex always told me I would never find someone to put up with my kids. Dumba** forgot they were his too. Well, I found someone when my youngest was 6 & my oldest was 12 who loves ME & OUR kids. So as far as being tuned off, I don't think it's that, it's just finding a man who loves YOU & the package you come with. And if you think about it, they aren't a package, they are your kids...
Its some and some. Some men would be bothered by it, but the right man will think your worth it.
I know lots of second time around, step families that are really happy and make it work. It does take a special man to take on stuff like that on, but why would you want a man that isn't special? I think just be honest with the man about stuff and things will happen for the best.
no its not a turn of. its sorta neutral. it depends on the guy mainly. but make sure not to hide it from whoever your dating. and youll find the right one out there
well the number of kids do not matter wut matters is if u still have feelings for the other guy.everyone deserves a chance even though they allready had a relashionship
Depends on the guy...some won't be interested, others won't care. Chances are that the younger a guy is, the less likely he'll want to get involved with someone who has kids.
no no no no no no!
men wanna make there own....
No way! Most men do not like taking care of other another man's kids.
Yes, big turn off.
MEN WILL NEVER LIKE U
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