What do you think about black men dating white women? Help?

I'm white (Russian) and my boyfriend is black (Nigerian) and many people seem to have a problem with seeing the 2 of us together. Some of my family members are reluctant to accept our relationship, warning me about having to deal with social pressure (unfortunately they don't seem to understand that for me they are the main source of that pressure) and bringing it up as a con. I have no clue what they are talking about because a) I've never dated anyone who isn't Russian and b) all i see in this guy is his intelligence, character, and a bunch of other stuff that makes me fall for him. So what's the problem? What rule are we breaking? My family doesn't hate him or anything like that and will accept him once they see that he makes me happy, but they would rather see me with a Russian because they think it would be better and easier for me.

And any tips on how to deal with the negativity coming from my family and society in general? Any personal experiences you'd like to share?

In the same boat...i'm asian and my bf is white my parents think it is easier to date the same race because they will understand your culture more and it will be easier.

The way i deal with it is just let them know time has changed. People are people it doesn't matter what color they are we all have feelings. I love my bf and I don't let anyone elses opinon affect my relationship or myself. I know I am not ignorant and that I am very opened minded to anything. As long as you know yourself you are happy and your happy with your bf that is the only thing that matters.

People who love you will come around if they truly love you.

People's thoughts and opinions should not matter but your own. Life is way to short to live life by how others want you to live...live by your rules and live it the best you can. =)

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personally i could care less.

I really don't worry about who other people are dating :)

Is there anything else new out there?

Express in a nice way that althoug you love your family your realtionship is your business and this is your decision. You have to confront it head on when its family strangers...well screw them they are not important. They will learnt to accept if they dont have a choice and hopefully see why ou care for him. God bless you and him !

If the two of you are happy, it is a great thing. If someone around you is racist and making snide remarks about your relationship, you need to consider whether you want the snide remark-maker (not the boyfriend) out of your life. Race makes absolutely no difference if you are happy. Be proud of yourself, your boyfriend, and your great relationship.

stick to your own -

I don't think that it is a big deal and for the guy saying stick to your own kind I think that you are just too wrong for saying that. You can love who ever you want to.

well i think we should all be allowed to date, marry etc...whoever we want to. i am also white and my husband is black, and i have to say we have not had any real problems with society...although i have had some "looks", but thats about it. if you love him and he loves you then by all means be with the man that makes you happy. as far as the person said...stick to your own kind.... what exactly is "your own kind"? we are all human so thats my kind. skin color should not matter. and as far as my own personal experience....my BLACK husband treats me far better than any WHITE man i have been with. so my advice to you is, if you want to be with him go for it, its not your families choice nor is it societies. be with however make YOU happy. good luck to you and your bf.